girls, guys check in:

[StarmanDX]

lmao

[Neko]

Originally posted by Atresica
You people are losers to be interested in such kind of girls

real real losers, get a grip on yourself and get a girlfriend who isn't that mindnumbeling stupid.

I once had that going on, and now I fortunatly haven't gotten myself into that, but I haven't found the perfect girl either

I do wonder, what if some of the girls I talk with has the exact thing going on with me?! That would be weird....but ah well.

[Lightwing]

Its a nice little theory that guy wrote up there. Accept that he is every negative adjective he used to describe other people. In a general sense, he and "the girl in love with the asshole" share a common boundry:

they are both blind.

[Reek]

Well, it is quite clear that the author hasn't had much success with the opposite sex. And he is also a hypocrit, i mean, what kind of "nice" guy calls girls stupid, and every male who has more success than him an "asshole".
He is probably bitter about something that happened to him...

[Neko]

Lol, I figured that out, but still you do wonder what other people think about it.

[Star]

Anakin>I forgive you for not looking like a member of Linkin Park!

[SpaceGuitarist]

Originally Posted by Reek

In this subject I have an inner-conflict:

One one hand, i feel like girls are attracted to those assholes who don't respect them, and it makes me angry. I tell myself that i'm angry because the girl doesn't know what's good for her, but in reality i'm angry because i ain't getting any girls.

On the other hand, i think this way of thinking is pathetic, that's what a looser who doesn't get girls would say, as an excuse to his shyness or whatnot.

I defintiley fit into the "nice guy" category.
Many times i feel like a bystander, like i'm good, but not good enough.

I guess what i'm looking for is a girl who'll respect me,
I want to be loved because i'm a nice guy, but i don't want to feel like a weakling, or like a consolation prize to a girl who's been dumped by an "asshole".
So i try to be "nice", and still have those "asshole" like qualities that impress girls, like showing off strength, being witty and all that. I don't want a girl who will appreciate me less if i don't act like an asshole, i want her to apprecaite me for being nice, and caring. but at the same time to appreciate me for being brave,and protective.

I never thought I'd read this coming from you, this was heartwarming


I always imagined you to be the 'bad boy' type from early age, it's nice to know we all have struggled in some phase

[bloodhound]

Proposal: Ban digging up awkward shit we wrote as 14-year olds

(@Battler: That was a joke, no need to create a thread about it)

[Reek]

It's fine, I never wrote that, my account was hacked at the time

[Neko]

Holy fuck

I forgot what text i shared here but i find confidence is more key

[Neko]

Originally Posted by Neko

Holy fuck

I forgot what text i shared here but i find confidence is more key

And cliche but if you are yourself you most likely will attract what likes you

[SpaceGuitarist]

Originally Posted by Neko

And cliche but if you are yourself you most likely will attract what likes you

that's the cheesiest self-help advice ever but yeah, it's true

[Polaris]

Originally Posted by Neko

Holy fuck

I forgot what text i shared here but i find confidence is more key

Seems to be a standard teenager rant from a guy who couldn't make it work with his crush

It’s amazing that assholes can get girls. Actually, now that I think of it, it’s not that amazing. They are assholes at heart, but to meet girls they lavish their undying love. IT’S A CHARADE. They act nice, friendly, and they listen… until they get into what they’re after. Their prey thinks they are in love with them, however when they realize what assholes their predators really are, they pretend like the asshole is really nice inside. The girl tries to change the asshole into a nice guy, but assholes will always be assholes. She gets upset and goes to the nice guy to complain about the asshole. But she claims to love the asshole… now this is where the theory begins. She doesn’t want to look like she is easy so she wont dump the asshole right away, instead she will stay with the asshole. Girls are idiots. They don’t realize that the nice guy has been there all along. He never had to pretend to be a good guy to get girls because he is naturally like that. However, girls don’t see it for some reason or another. They look at the nice guy as a friend, a trusted companion to whom they can tell their sad story to about their asshole boyfriend.

But the nice guy isn’t THAT naïve. He was trying to score with the girl he listens to all along. The problem is that since he is a nice guy he keeps listening. Since girls get attached to things that pay attention to them, they think of the nice guy as a friend. A FRIEND. They don’t say, “Oh he’s hot” or “I want to have his children” about the nice guy, they just want the emotional support. When they get the emotional support from the nice guy, they don’t need it from the asshole. The nice guy gets the shit end of the stick while the asshole gets all the action. I am starting to wonder if being a nice guy is really the route to take to get action… I have been down this path for all of my post-pubescent life and it has gotten me NOWHERE… at least not in the women department.

Perhaps another reason why girls fall for the asshole is because assholes ignore the girl they are with. The women wonder, “Why isn’t he paying attention to me?” so they explore why. They poke and prod and get closer to the asshole. They start to get easier with each attempt to get closer. The asshole finally says, “I’ve let this beauty dangle long enough, time to boat this bass”. It is then he puts on his charade and the girl feels like she has won him… even thought all she has won is an asshole.

Once you have gone down the path as a nice guy or a “listener” you can’t turn back. The girl will always go after the assholes because there are always nice guys there to listen. Once you realize that you are a “listener” you cant do anything about it… just pack up and close shop. There is no way you will get into her pants… ever. There is and never will be a situation where the nice guy will get the girl he has a crush on. It just doesn’t work like that. The girl wont “come to her senses” and realize what an asshole her boyfriend is like in the movies… instead she will just go after another asshole, and unless you stop being a nice guy, she will never go after you. Women complain that there are no nice guys in the world. Right. They are obviously not looking hard enough because there are nice guys EVERYWHERE!!!! Girls aren’t looking for nice guys… they say they are but they’re not. They are looking for the perfect asshole, but there is NO SUCH THING as the perfect asshole.

All in all, the nice guy gets the shaft. To all the girls out there with boyfriends that don’t treat you with respect, that don’t listen to you, and that don’t care about you I say this; look next to you. The guy that has been standing next to you the whole time is the guy you have been looking for. He is what you want your asshole to be like. He knows more about you than you know about yourself… because he has listened to it all.

[SpaceGuitarist]

Hmm. Can't deny I've witnessed this scenario multiple times in real life.

Originally Posted by Polaris

Seems to be a standard teenager rant from a guy who couldn't make it work with his crush

I wouldn't boil it down to just that...

[CS2x]

Originally Posted by SpaceGuitarist

I never thought I'd read this coming from you, this was heartwarming


I always imagined you to be the 'bad boy' type from early age, it's nice to know we all have struggled in some phase

Yeah, it was super heartening to read something so vulnerable, would never have expected it.

Well done old Reek / Anakin [or rather whoever hacked your account. ;-) ]

[Neko]

Originally Posted by CS2x

Yeah, it was super heartening to read something so vulnerable, would never have expected it.

Well done old Reek / Anakin [or rather whoever hacked your account. ;-) ]

This (not this thread) is what i meant, old anakin was cool

[CS2x]

Originally Posted by Neko

This (not this thread) is what i meant, old anakin was cool

Yeah, it's interesting to see the difference. I miss the old days of openness, relative vulnerability, the lack of sure grounding that teenage-hood fosters...which means less cynicism and hardness.

Obviously it has limitations and downsides too. Nothing wrong with being cool and competent. Not that I feel any more competent now myself, but others may have "won" at life.

[SpaceGuitarist]

Originally Posted by Neko

This (not this thread) is what i meant, old anakin was cool

Originally Posted by CS2x

Yeah, it's interesting to see the difference. I miss the old days of openness, relative vulnerablenes, the lack of grounding that teenage-hood fosters...which means less cynicism and hardness.

Obviously it has limitations and downsides too. Nothing wrong with being cool and competent. Not that I feel any more competent now myself, but others may have "won" at life.

yeah

ditto

[Polaris]

Originally Posted by Neko

This (not this thread) is what i meant, old anakin was cool

Reek's still cool !

[Reek]

Originally Posted by Polaris

Reek's still cool !